We often get to hear others & our own self complaining about the miseries & troubles of a challenged life. “All the troubles are due to my disability” ”Life could have been better if I was on toes & not wheels” These perhaps are a few common statements of a disabled individual. We blame our disability & physical limitations for all the troubles we face in life. We think all the sadness is due to our limited physical capabilities. But is it an insured assurance that we would have been an all time happy person if we were not challenged? Is there any fail-safe guarantee that things would have been immensely better & our life would have had no misery if we were not challenged?
Though it is an undeniable fact that leaning forever on someone for our reliance is immensely frustrating, but our disability certainly should not be held solely responsible for the sadness in our life. Sadness is the outcome of attitude. If a person does not have the right attitude of living life with contentment then he could never be happy even with or without an able body.
Limitations are with everyone, it is only the form that varies. A normal bodied person envies a happy looking disabled for all the favours he gets from government & people around, whereas a disabled person envies a tall man passing by with a normal limb. It’s mostly a reverse process.
A person can be happy or unhappy not usually due to physical challenges but the challenges of his own attitude & outlook. People on wheelchairs also enjoy life & sports because it is the way they accept, adapt & aspire to be happy even with their disability. On the contrary there are innumerable people around us who are busy criticizing others, complaining about life & feel miserable even after possessing a normal body.
Whenever you are about to hold your disability responsible for your troubles just look around & ask yourself-
Are all able bodied people around you have been perfectly happy?
Are only those people who do not walk have been sad?
Is walking normally the only source of happiness?
If you were normal bodied would you have been saved from all the troubles?
Think about a childless couple, a drug-addict, a criminal, an orphan, a victim of crime, don’t they feel devastated? Miseries are a part of life & there is no particular target to blame for. One misery will follow another & one challenge will succeed another. It’s a vicious circle and that’s the way life is meant to be. Days are never the same, seasons are never the same & exactly in the same way, life is never the same. The only thing that gives consistency to happiness is our attitude towards life.
No one could factually disagree that our disability adds up to out troubles. It certainly makes things difficult but it is our attitude that makes the situation even worse. If a person values life & wants to be positive & happy about it he can be, even with or without a disability. On the other hand if a person doesn’t know where true happiness for him comes from, he can never be happy even without a disability.
Try to figure out your source of happiness. Be sure it cannot always come from a walk without disability only. Experiment, & explore your source of contentment & reach for it. Develop a sense of worth. Self realization & valuing your existence will make the world realize your value…that’s the way life deserves to be lived.
Saturday, July 21, 2007
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